Tuesday, July 28, 2009
An Important Passage from Albert Einstein
Let the following passage work it's magic for you:
"I think the most important question facing humanity is, 'Is the universe a friendly place?' This is the first and most basic question all people must answer for themselves.
For if we decide that the universe is an unfriendly place, then we will use our technology, our scientific discoveries and our natural resources to achieve safety and power by creating bigger walls to keep out the unfriendliness and bigger weapons to destroy all that which is unfriendly-and I believe that we are getting to a place where technology is powerful enough that we may either completely isolate or destroy ourselves as well in this process.
If we decide that the universe is neither friendly nor unfriendly and that God is essentially 'playing dice with the universe', then we are simply victims to the random toss of the dice and our lives have no real purpose or meaning.
But if we decide that the universe is a friendly place, then we will use our technology, our scientific discoveries and our natural resources to create tools and models for understanding that universe. Because power and safety will come through understanding its workings and its motives.
A human being is a part of the whole called by us 'universe'. . . a part limited in time and space. He experiences his thoughts and feelings as separated from the rest-a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us.
Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
-- Albert Einstein
Debby Riddick,
"I am committed to YOUR Success"
http://driddick.mentoringforfree.com
Friday, July 17, 2009
Do What Really Makes You Come Alive
Terry Grundy.
I love this quote. If the world were filled with people pursuing their passions, it would be a completely different place.
How would your business be different if you were doing something that truly energized you?
Are you just going through the motions because it is something that you think you should do? Or something your brother or best friend talked you into? If so, you are in trouble.
I remember a speech Deepak Chopra gave to a group of network marketers where he told them it should be easy. He said if it wasn't fun, if it wasn't easy, they should get out.
Maybe all we need to do is look at what we are doing and FIND the fun in it, look at it with fresh eyes. If your business has become a drag do something NOW to change that. Imagine what your product is going to do for someone who really needs it. Or, imagine what your business is going to do for your family finances, or your time with your family.
Figure out what motivates you and then find that in your business.
I am a Yellow personality and what motivates me is helping people, and most especially my family. So what I have to do is imagine all the people who need my help in some way. I get energized by that.
Blues love adventure and excitement so they need to focus on the fun and excitement that is in their future and the future of those they help.
Reds need to make lots of money and love to organize people so they will focus on those aspects.
Greens need to learn all about what they are doing and they love to plan. So they help everyone learn everything they need to know. They love to plan the financial security of their family. They can focus on that.
The bottom line is this - find out what truly makes you come alive; then find a way to work on that with your business.
Blessings,
Debby Riddick,
"I am committed to YOUR Success"
http://driddick.mentoringforfree.com
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Think & Grow Rich, Chapter 2 - Desire
I am posting this at great personal vulnerability because I think there are a lot of you out there who can relate. I am immensely thankful that I found a group of mentors who helped me understand a lot of things about network marketing and how it works.
This is my third trip through Think and Grow Rich with MFF. I keep thinking that I have Desire all figured out. But one of the first things I noticed about this chapter as we start again is this part: "One of the chief characteristics of Barnes' Desire was that it was definite. He wanted to work with Edison, not for him." I know that I have not honed my Desire down to that level and kept it there. I still need to get my Why down to a concise statement of intent.
I have never made the commitment Hill is talking about when he tells us that "when a man really DESIRES a thing so deeply that he is willing to stake his entire future on a single turn of the wheel in order to get it, he is sure to win." I have never sold out completely. Barnes took a menial job with Edison and used that time to let his Desire focus itself until it was an all consuming obsession. He kept his options open to see what would turn up. Again Hill says "When the opportunity came, it appeared in a different form, and from a different direction than Barnes had expected. That is one of the tricks of opportunity. It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognize opportunity."
I gave 5 years of what I thought was all out effort, 7 days a week and most nights, to my last company; but I have to honestly say that I was not totally sold out in my belief. I knew that some people were making a lot of money and had lots of freedom, but I always held back from giving it Everything emotionally because I was afraid of what it would ask of me. I didn't believe that I could do the same thing they were without compromising my ethics and my family. I gave up a lot of time with my family over the 5 years and as time went on I stayed with it because I didn't want their sacrifice of my time to be for nothing. Hill also teaches us about the value of persistence in the story about Mr. Darby and the gold mine. I didn't want to stop "three feet from my goal" so I kept on even after I had lost all hope in the enterprise. (By the way it was/is NOT a 5 pillar company.) Mr. Darby's uncle taught us to never accept no from life - that little girl would not accept no from Darby's uncle. We need to be just as intent on getting our goals.
One thing I have read is that I need to keep asking "Why?" after each of the things I have on my list to get at the feeling that I am after. When I do that I get two things: freedom and significance. I want a life of freedom and significance. I don't know what to do with that because it seems so nebulous; yet in a way it is very freeing. I don't have to tie my Why to a specific act or level in business. Instead I am free to use my actions and my business to achieve my goal. My burning desire is for a feeling, an emotion; and there is more than one way to get at that feeling. I can allow the Universe/God the freedom to use me and my life in ways I might never be able to imagine. The feelings will come when I demand from life what is most important to me -freedom and significance- while allowing the Universe creative license in how to achieve that, coupled with unshakable faith and persistence.
Thank you Michael, Marcello and Jerry for your belief and mentorship,
Debby Riddick
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
How to Outwit the Six Ghosts of Fear
This is a lesson I did recently for a Master Mind group I am part of.
I have been trying to find a way to cover this whole chapter and I can't seem to do it. Here is a small part.
Hill gives us the 6 basic fears: poverty, criticism, ill health, loss of someones love, old age, and death.
I want to focus on the first one because that seems to be such a huge thing right now. It seems like everywhere you look people are scared to death of losing everything - their job, their car, their house, their retirement.
Man can create NOTHING which he does not first conceive in the form of an impulse of thought. Hill tells us also that if we leave our mind unattended we will be beset by the vibration/impact of all the thoughts others are throwing out there. With all the attention being focused on our supposed recession it is dangerous to not be in control of our mind. The economy is driven by emotion. Our emotions drive our spending habits, and our spending habits drive the economy. Any economist will agree with this statement. They only differ in the solutions they propose.
We need to close our mind to these thoughts and only admit thought impulses of our own choosing.
Fears are nothing but a state of mind. A state of mind can be changed.
We just need to follow Hill's plan to reach those dreams and goals we have. The first step is Desire. This desire needs to be a white hot, burning desire. It needs to be specific and detailed. Take time to write out your specific dream.
If we are Willing to accept poverty that is exactly what we are going to get. It is all a state of mind. Sometimes we just want the attention we get by complaining and
whining about What If .... I loved it where Hill said "Planning what to do IF AND WHEN OVERTAKEN BY FAILURE, INSTEAD OF BURNING ALL BRIDGES AND
MAKING RETREAT IMPOSSIBLE" was one of the signs of Fear of Poverty. We need the desire and then we need to take action on it, believing that we are headed in the right direction. No more doubt; no more worry; no more procrastination.
I think that I have struggled a lot more personally with the fear of criticism. I spent too much of my life seeking approval from others. It had some upsides such as making me a hard worker, but the stress, the perfectionism, and frustration were much more devastating. I still fight that, but I am getting better all the time; especially in my relationships.
But this path of growth is never-ending. Self development is a must. I have cut the chatter and focused my efforts. Because of this Master Mind group I am on my way to owning my life.
I encourage you to spend time in reflection. Have you written out your why? What is there in your life that you are no longer willing to put up with? What do you want your friends and family to remember about you when you are gone? Do you spend time in self development and in learning about your business?
Debby Riddick
Friday, June 12, 2009
Are You Unreasonable ?
Have you adapted yourself to the world around you and settled for what everyone else says is normal?
Have you forgotten your dreams because everyone around you says that they are too big?
Have you ......
Dream BIG.
Be UNreasonable.
Debby Riddick
http://DRiddick.bigmlmtruths.com
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Anita Roddick, one of my favorite leaders
Here is what made her so great:
"But if you can create an honorable
livelihood, where you take your skills
and use them and you earn a living from
it, it gives you a sense of freedom and
allows you to balance your life the way
you want."
Monday, May 11, 2009
Great quote from Thoreau
"I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary; new, universal, and more liberal laws will begin to establish themselves around and within him; or the old laws be expanded, and interpreted in his favor in a more liberal sense, and he will live with the license of a higher order of beings."
— Henry David Thoreau
American Author and Philosopher